Would you consider yourself self-focused or other-focused?
As Christians, we are called to live with an outward-focused perspective. This was perfectly modeled in the example of our Lord Jesus, who washed the feet of his disciples, who came not to be served, but to serve, and who spoke truth in love. This type of conduct was reinforced by early Christians like Paul, who encouraged the followers of Jesus not to indulge in what might be a stumbling block for others—even if they were personally fine with it.
Being other-focused can be a tough standard to adhere to in our culture of self-care and independence. In most situations, putting ourselves first is considered a primary value. We’re often encouraged to just “follow your heart”, “do what feels good”, and ignore the impact of our choices and actions so long as it benefits us.
It’s important to take care of yourself. But as believers, we should bear in mind that we are not the sole provider of our own needs, nor are we called to put ourselves first. Our Heavenly Father cares for us in every aspect of our lives. When we rely on Him to sustain and provide for us, it expands our capacity to be other-focused—to worry less about who’s taking care of us, so that we can care for others.
Now, that’s not to say we never need a day off, a moment to breathe, some quiet time, and boundaries. After all, Jesus got into boats and spent time one-on-one with the Father to rejuvenate himself! But his focus remained outward-facing. He prioritized living in God’s will and caring for his sheep. His mission was never about “making Jesus feel good.” Rest, rejuvenation, and healthy boundaries were a part of being about his Father’s business, not his own.
This week, we encourage you to assess your focus—are you more concerned about taking care of yourself or serving others? Are you trusting God to meet your physical, spiritual, and emotional needs? Or are you solely shouldering the burden of providing with your own two hands? Do you tend to indulge in things that are stumbling blocks to those around you? Is your default when someone asks for your help to say “no”, or do you consider if you really can help before you respond?
If you find an imbalance in your focus, prayerfully bring this to God and ask Him to help you shift your perspective. Then spend time adjusting your life and habits to reflect a servant’s heart. Look for opportunities to focus on and serve others…even volunteering and stepping in to meet needs before anyone asks you to do it!
When we surrender the urgency to be consumed with our own wants and needs—and instead focus on serving and caring for others with our words, conduct, and actions (like Jesus did)—we will experience a greater sense of fulfillment, peace, and joy.
And we will find ourselves wonderfully taken care of. All our needs are deeply met as we rest in the Father’s love.
